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The Impact of Divorce on Kids and How to Help Them Through It

Nadya Sharfina · February 2, 2024 · Leave a Comment

"Navigating divorce requires families to adjust communication and parenting styles, with varied impacts on children's lives."

Going through a divorce is a challenging phase for families, not only for the parents to figure out new ways to communicate but also for learning different approaches to parenting. The effects of divorce on children are quite diverse and can vary from one child to another. Let’s dive deeper into this article and examine how divorce can leave its mark on the lives of the little ones in a family.

1. Struggling in School

When parents decide to part ways, it can result in an emotional upheaval for their children, particularly affecting their performance in school. The complex and new circumstances can make it more difficult for children to concentrate on their schoolwork, thus impacting their academic achievement.

This struggle in school is usually not due to a lack of desire to succeed; rather, it is due to how the divorce process might provide distractions and emotions that make it difficult for them to keep on top of their schoolwork.

2. Social Withdrawal

Children might face some difficulties in connecting with friends or forming new friendships. This uncertainty can impact how comfortable children feel in social settings. They might find it a bit harder to open up to friends or make new connections because of the changes happening at home. The concern about their family situation being unique can create a barrier to social interactions, making them feel a little hesitant or uneasy about sharing their experiences with others.

One solution to help children navigate these challenges is by fostering an environment of empathy and understanding at home and school. Encouraging open communication about family dynamics can alleviate the sense of isolation and help children realise that they’re not alone in facing such situations. Try to encourage your children to participate in group activities or clubs that align with their interests. Engaging in such activities fosters natural bonding and helps them form friendships with peers who share similar interests. This can create a supportive network for them beyond just their immediate family. Check out ‘All about Co-Curricular Activities: How to Choose the Right CCA for Your Kids’

3. Emotional Sensitivity

Dealing with emotions after a divorce is a big deal for children. It’s like the whole family is going through a rollercoaster of feelings, and children are right there in the middle of it. They might feel all sorts of things – like they’re missing something, angry, confused, or anxious. It’s a mix of emotions that can be pretty intense.

When these emotions hit, children need a way to let them out. They might need someone to talk to, someone who’s willing to listen, or just a safe space to share what’s going on inside their heads. Having an emotional outlet is important for them to handle all these intense feelings that come with the changes happening in the family.

To support children in managing their emotions, it’s important to offer them diverse outlets for expression and support. Encouraging activities they enjoy, such as art, music, or sports, can serve as healthy distractions and channels for emotional release. These mediums can act as therapy, allowing them to express deep emotions they may not be ready to discuss verbally. Engaging in positive activities also provides distractions and helps them constructively navigate their feelings. Check out ‘Unveiling the Magic of Art Therapy for Kids’ and ‘5 Exciting Sports for Kids and Teens in Singapore’

4. Feeling Guilty

When parents choose to go their separate ways, it can make children wonder why it’s happening, and these thoughts can lead to feelings of guilt as if they did something wrong. It’s a common reaction when families experience a divorce. This sense of guilt isn’t just a small feeling; it often comes with extra challenges, like feeling more pressure, bouts of sadness, and increased stress.

Children might start questioning themselves, wondering if their actions or behaviours somehow caused their parents to split up. This added emotional weight can make the whole situation even more challenging for them to handle.

5. Destructive Behaviour

When parents haven’t solved all their problems and things are still a bit messy after the divorce, it can lead to some less-than-ideal outcomes for children. If children have experienced their parents fighting for many years, they might be more prone to engaging in dangerous behaviour. This includes doing things that are against the law, like getting involved in petty crime or drug use.

Addressing destructive behaviour in children after a divorce requires a comprehensive approach centred on stability and positive reinforcement. Fostering open communication between parents and children establishes a supportive environment where children feel safe expressing their emotions and seeking guidance without fear of judgement. It’s crucial not to criticise them if they exhibit changes in behaviour or make mistakes, as this can worsen the problem.

Implementing positive reinforcement techniques, such as expressing unconditional love and offering rewards for positive choices, can motivate children to make healthier decisions and avoid destructive behaviour. However, if necessary, seeking professional support through therapy or counselling can equip children with the necessary tools and coping mechanisms.

Counselling centres for children and families in Singapore:

6. Health Problems

The process of divorce can bring a lot of stress, and this stress can affect the health of children. When children experience their parents getting divorced, it might make them more likely to get sick because the stress can make it harder for them to stay healthy.

Things like trouble sleeping can be a part of this, and it all adds up to affect their physical well-being.

Sometimes, when children are feeling sad or down, it can make their health even worse. It’s like a cycle – feeling sad can make them less healthy, and being less healthy can make them feel even sadder, possibly leading to depression.

To address the impact of stress on children’s health, it’s important to take a holistic approach that considers their physical and emotional well-being. Establishing consistent routines and promoting healthy habits like regular exercise and nutritious meals can bolster their immune systems and counteract the detrimental effects of stress on their health. Check out ‘Smart Food Choices for Kids’ During Exams.’ Additionally, teaching stress-reduction techniques such as mindfulness exercises and relaxation methods can empower children to manage their emotions effectively and alleviate the physical strain caused by stress.

7. Loss of Faith in Marriage and Family

Children might lose some trust in the idea of getting married and having a stable family. The experience of their parents separating can shake their belief in the things they thought were supposed to last forever. They begin to wonder if marriage and families can be as strong and reliable as they once believed.

This change in thinking can affect how children view the idea of getting married when they grow up. They might become a bit hesitant or uncertain about the whole idea of marriage because they’ve seen that sometimes things don’t work out the way they expect. The experience of their parents’ divorce makes them approach these ideas with a bit more caution and doubt.

In conclusion, divorce can have a wide-ranging impact on children’s lives, including academic performance, social interactions, and emotional well-being. While the effects of divorce are different for each child, the disruptions can be significant. Parents need to acknowledge these problems and provide their children with the appropriate support, understanding, and a supportive environment to help them get through this difficult phase.

It is recommended that both parents approach the situation with honesty. Sitting down together to calmly share the news of the divorce can help alleviate some of the confusion and anxiety children may feel. Remember to get on the same page before the discussion and avoid arguing in front of them. This could involve reassuring the children that both parents still care and have a united front when it comes to parenting. By prioritising the children’s well-being and maintaining open communication, parents can help their children adapt and thrive despite the challenges of divorce.

How to Get Kids Back into School Mode After the Holidays

Nadya Sharfina · January 11, 2024 · Leave a Comment

"Transitioning from carefree vacations to the structured school routine is made easier with parental support, understanding, and a focus on addressing children's emotional needs."

After a nice lull full of relaxed mornings and fun-filled afternoons, returning to school may prove difficult for some kids. Older kids are usually dealing with a variety of emotions, whilst the younger ones may find the physical aspect more challenging. While teachers do help, It is ultimately up to the parents to help their kids navigate this transition well. Parents could help with making the move from relaxed vacation vibes to the regulated school routine more comfortable by understanding and addressing their kid’s specific emotional needs. In this article, we will look at several ways to successfully help your kids transition from vacation mentality to school mode.

Why It Matters

The transition from a relaxed vacation to a school routine can have a substantial influence on a kid’s health and academic performance. Parents must realise the potential difficulties that their kids may endure throughout this transition. Emotions ranging from excitement to stress and worry are common reactions during this transition. Recognising these emotions and offering the necessary support might help with the adjustment process and help to set your kids up for a great academic year.

Make Sure They Have Everything They Need

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The practical parts of returning to school such as making sure your kid has all of the necessary materials can have a huge impact on their confidence and comfort. Take the opportunity to check if their uniform still fits and help them organise their school supplies, such as ensuring they have all necessary stationery including working calculators and sufficient foolscap paper.

This not only prepares kids for the upcoming semester but also instils a sense of preparation and control. Get your kids to do an inventory of all the items they have, categorising things by stuff they can reuse, purchase or fix. By incorporating your kid in this process, you give them the ability to take control of their readiness, laying the groundwork for a positive attitude when they return to school.

Have a Friendly Conversation

Recognise and resolve any potential stress or worry your kid may feel when returning to school. Start an open and courteous discourse about their issues. Reassure them that their feelings are completely normal and offer tales from your own life to show that everyone feels comparable emotions at times of change. By actively listening and empathising, you foster a supportive environment in which your kid can openly express their emotions and worries.

Encourage a positive outlook by emphasising the exciting elements of returning to school, such as reconnecting with friends, participating in extracurricular activities and learning new things. Express real interest in their academic lives. Enquire about their subjects and offer homework assistance. This engagement not only strengthens your bond but also instils a sense of enthusiasm for the upcoming school term. Read on further to find out more about how to conduct after-school chats here: ‘Connecting with Your Kids: After-School Chats’

Establish a Routine Early

Getting your child back into school mode can be a smooth transition if you start adjusting their schedule a few days before school begins. One of the most important things you can do is shift their bedtime and wake-up time gradually. If your child has been staying up late over the holidays, try moving their bedtime earlier by 15-30 minutes each night. This way, they’ll get used to waking up earlier, making the first day of school feel a lot more manageable.

Along with adjusting sleep, it’s also a good idea to begin shifting mealtimes. If their meals have been happening later than usual, start bringing them back to the times they’ll have during the school week. This helps regulate their internal clock and prevents hunger pangs during school hours.

Don’t forget about screen time! Over the holidays, it’s easy to let screens be part of the evening routine, but now is the time to get back to school-friendly hours. Setting limits on screen time and encouraging activities like reading or quiet play in the evening will help create a calming pre-bed routine and make the transition to school much smoother.

Set Up a Countdown

The transition from the relaxed days of vacation to the rigid routine of school can be difficult for kids. To ease the adjustment, consider establishing a visual back-to-school countdown. This can be a fun and interactive way for kids to visualise their upcoming return to the classroom.

A colourful calendar with daily countdown stickers can help younger kids stay engaged in the process. Older kids may opt to enter the date on their calendars, which allows them to actively track the time until school resumes. This visible depiction of time assists kids in mentally preparing for the transition, making the return to school less abrupt and more tolerable.

Make Their First Few Weeks Back Memorable

To help kids cope with the potential disappointment of moving from the carefree vacation atmosphere, try creating a special celebration to honour the end of their first school month. This provides recognition for their hard work in adjusting to the school schedule. This celebration can include a game night with family, a fun outing with friends, a delicious dinner at their favourite restaurant, a movie night, or even a trip to a nearby mini-golf course.

Incorporating a positive and entertaining activity not only gives your kid something to anticipate but also transforms the return to school into a more thrilling and less overwhelming experience. This optimistic approach nurtures the belief that school can be both informative and enjoyable.

The Parenting Diary: 8 Habits to Start in 2024 to become Unstoppable!

Rebecca Samuel · January 8, 2024 · Leave a Comment

"Kickstart 2024 by incorporating habits into your routine, striking a balance between work, parenting, and personal growth—ensuring you shine in every aspect of your life."

It’s the start of 2024, the start of another working year and also the start of yet another school year. Between juggling new projects at work and your child’s priorities, it will be easy to lose a sense of yourself and your personal goals. Time may be tight, but good habits that are woven into your daily routine will set you up to be both a star parent and a well adjusted individual. Read on to find out more about 8 habits that you can start incorporating into your life in 2024!

1. The morning routine – stretch & strategise

Establish a routine in the morning which involves taking time for yourself. Start with a quick stretch. This can be as simple as neck rolls, toe touches and a few sun salutations. Then take a few minutes to pen down your plans for the day. I personally prefer to use a checklist which I can tick off throughout the day, giving me that desired sense of accomplishment, but you can use any method that works for you. This is a list of major things that you absolutely need to get done – and not every single minor task. Alternatively, you can also make this list the night before, and then take a few minutes to glance through it in the morning to get your game face on.

2. Write down your thoughts before bed

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Writing your thoughts down before bed will improve your quality of sleep. You can look at it as a brain dump of everything that has happened in your life for the day, or you could go a little further and reflect on everything that has happened. If writing takes up time, try using voice typing to get your thoughts down a little faster. Here are some ideas for musings that you can pen down:

Your goals for tomorrow
What you’re grateful for
Negative thoughts and the reasons for them
Reflections on the kids or your partner
Feelings about your job

3. Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day

Some of us have a gym membership and lift weights regularly while also making time to attend a Pilates, Kickboxing or Zumba class on a regular basis. Some of us struggle to just make it through the work day and be back in time to have dinner and conversation with the kids. Try to incorporate exercise into your daily routine by walking or taking the stairs whenever possible. Carve out time to take a walk after dinner or gift yourself a walking pad that can be used while you work. Try your best to get some workouts done throughout the week, be it swimming, jogging or playing badminton with the family. Your older self will thank you for keeping active!

4. Sit in Silence for 10 minutes every day

Our minds are racing with thousands of thoughts all the time, and as parents, we are often multitasking in ways we didn’t know was possible. Sitting quietly for 10 minutes a day and emptying your mind will do wonders for your brain. It will give your racing thoughts a break and teach you how to be present in the moment. If you struggle to do this by yourself, try downloading a meditation app such as Headspace or Calm.

5. Establish a solid sleep schedule

Sleep is essential for reducing stress, your mental health, improving your mood and increasing your efficiency. If you stay up at night worrying or scrolling through your phone, you are not giving yourself the chance to have the best quality of life that you deserve. For deep and good quality sleep, remember to:

Turn off all screens at least 1 hour before bedtime
Do not eat at least 3 hours before bedtime
Ensure that your bedroom is cool and at a conducive temperature for sleep
Use blackout curtains to ensure that light pollution will not disturb your sleep
Do deep breathing and count backwards from 100 to 0. Or count sheep, anything goes!

6. Take a 30 minute walk in nature

If you live in Singapore, chances are that a park connector is fairly nearby. Even if it isn’t, a small park or a quiet tree-lined street will go a long way towards improving your mood. It has been proven that Nature can help get rid of anxiety, increase happiness and infuse calm. Moreover, it might be a great way to get your kids away from their screens and to have that after-school chat. [Read: Connecting with Your Kids: After-School Chats]

7. Read 10 pages a day

Can you barely remember the last time you picked up a book, or were able to concentrate on getting through it? Life gets in the way, and with a busy work schedule and kids, it becomes hard to find time to read entire books. Reading is what helps us develop as individuals and it is also what provides us with knowledge to improve our lives. Instead of attempting to read a book or two a month, try starting out with a mere 10 pages a day. This may eventually lead to more pages and even if it doesn’t, you will definitely get through the entire book at a certain point. Reading will help you increase your focus, knowledge and self-confidence. It will also give you bragging rights when trying to get the kids to read!

8. Drink water with every meal

This may go without saying, but plenty of adults do not drink sufficient water. This interferes with both your physical and mental health, causing greater irritability, impatience and exhaustion. Drink 300 to 500ml of water at every meal and make it a point to finish it before leaving the table. If you find it difficult to remember, try purchasing a water bottle with the exact measurement that you need, and drink from it throughout the day. Again, your older self will thank you for the hydration!

The A-Levels: How to Ace it!

Rebecca Samuel · April 10, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Achieving excellent results in the A-Levels is the key to getting into top universities both locally and abroad."

The A-Levels are a crucial milestone for students in Singapore who want to pursue tertiary education. Achieving excellent results in the A-Levels is the key to getting into top universities both locally and abroad. However, with so much pressure on students to excel, it can be difficult to know where to start when it comes to revision. Don’t worry! We are here to help. In this article, we will share some tips on how best to prepare for A-Level exams. So read on and ace your A-Levels!

1. Follow a Schedule and Make To-Do Lists to Stay on Track

Formulating a study schedule is essential to cover all the topics and stay on track with your A-Level preparation. This will help you organize your days and structure revision plans efficiently so that you have enough time to go back to your notes or understand complex concepts. Avoid cramming information as it can lead to stress. Dividing tasks up into small chunks also helps reduce anxiety and prevent burnout at the end of the A-Level period. Plus, this technique helps with anything that needs memorizing more effectively since less content is being processed at once.

2. Focus On One Task at a Time

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When studying for A-Levels, it is important to stay focused on the task at hand. With so much information to digest and remember, it can be difficult not to get overwhelmed by all the topics you need to cover. It might seem counterintuitive but focusing on doing one thing well will save you more time than juggling multiple tasks simultaneously.

In other words, choose one subject or topic that you want to work on and stick with it until you finish the task. A single-minded focus allows you to retain more information and concentrate on each concept in greater detail.

3. Use Past Exam Papers to Your Advantage

Past A-Level papers are your best friend when it comes to A-Level revision. Familiarizing yourself with the types of questions and answers that come up during exams can help you anticipate what kind of topics or questions might appear in real A-Level exams. This way, you can save time and effort since you already have an idea of what to expect on the day itself.

Moreover, revising past A-Level papers allow for better time management during the actual A-Level assessment. Going through previous A-Level papers trains your brain to think accurately under pressure and not be flustered by tricky questions or unfamiliar topics.

4. Break Down Your Notes into Manageable Chunks

Breaking down A-Level notes into smaller chunks makes it easier to digest what you are reading. This way, you can focus on the main points and not get overwhelmed by too much information at once.

There are several ways to break down your A-Level notes. Divide each topic according to its relevance or complexity and then use symbols, colors, or headings to separate one from the other. You can also highlight important keywords that might come in handy when exam time rolls around. All these techniques will help you organize A-Level material efficiently and make revision a simpler process overall.

5. Take Breaks and Have Fun While You Are Revising

While studying for the A-Levels are important, it is also essential to give your mind a break and enjoy yourself. Having fun while revising will help you stay motivated and energized throughout the A-Level period. A few simple activities can be incorporated into revision time like listening to music, watching an episode of your favorite show, playing video games, or even enjoying a snack after studying for a certain amount of time.

Taking breaks allows for better concentration when it comes to A-Level content so that you can handle all the information at once. Plus, having fun helps relieve any stress associated with A-Levels.

6. Get Help if You Need It! Tutors or Classmates Can Be a Great Resource

It is perfectly normal to feel intimidated by A-Levels and need a bit of extra help and support. Most A-Level students can benefit from the assistance of tutors or peers. A tutor can provide additional guidance on topics you may struggle with, while classmates can offer peer support when it comes to revision techniques.

No matter who you turn to for your A-Level journey, do not be afraid to ask for help when needed. A little bit of extra assistance could make all the difference in helping you ace your A-Level exams! Try Curio’s General Paper Programme.

So there you have it – our top tips on how best to prepare for the A-Level exams.

How to Adjust to Life in Secondary 1

Rebecca Samuel · April 8, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Then secondary school life begins and it does not seem at all like what anyone expected."

PSLE, the Everest of every primary school student’s life has been defeated, and you and your child are relieved beyond measure. Then secondary school life begins and it does not seem at all like what anyone expected. Double the subjects and triple the work needed to stay on track? CCAs with auditions, seniors who all know what they are doing and teachers who seem to talk too fast. Read on to find out how to detangle, and demystify your child’s new path.

Configure a New Routine

There are more subjects to handle coupled with CCA. The psychological impact of being in a new environment, trying to mingle, fit in and make friends also has to be taken into account. Routines will thus become extremely important in helping your child cope with the added stress. Going to bed and waking up at the same time everyday and specifying what ought to be scheduled after school hours – including time for lunch, rest and play – will make all the difference. Allow your child to have a say in this timetabling as well, and make sure that it is neither too stringent nor too relaxing.

Implement Habits of Mind

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Habits of Mind are dispositions that are mindfully employed by characteristically intelligent, successful people when they are confronted with problems. When we draw upon these mental resources, the results are more powerful, of higher quality, and of greater significance than if we fail to employ those habits. ‘Finding humour’ will help you to relax and take on stresses with some ease. Metacognition or ‘Thinking about your Thinking’ will aid you and your child to be more aware of the way you think and the reasons for why you arrive at a certain conclusion. Try some of them out yourself before introducing them to your child!

Give Your Child a Head Start

Ensure that both you and your child have a nice, relaxing break after PSLE. If you are nervous about some of the new subjects and demands that will arise in Secondary 1 however, find some fun, engaging holiday classes with preparatory lessons for the year ahead. This might assuage some anxiety, so long as it does not involve the stress of ‘mugging’ or a tutor who is obsessed with piling on holiday homework. Check out the classes offered at Curio: https://curio.sg/programmes/

Life in Secondary 1 will be daunting at first, and then the year will fly by and you will both settle into a new phase in your lives. Enjoy the journey!

7 Ways for Students to Increase Their Focus

Rebecca Samuel · April 7, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"We often struggle to pay attention, but when presented with a task that we perceive to be difficult, we are more prone to giving up before truly attempting it."

Everyone struggles with their attention span at some point. External factors such as exhaustion from a packed schedule, lack of exercise or a disagreement with a loved one can be the cause of a loss of focus. Conversely, even oversleeping and too much Netflix or screen time can contribute to a wandering mind.

1. Have ‘Focus Breaks’

You can use a timer or an app on your phone that reminds you to take breaks, or even have someone in your house pop by at a preset time with a drink (or cookies). 15 to 20 minutes is an ideal length of time for a break, but make sure you walk away from the screen or your study area and take a real break. What you do during your break is entirely up to you, but I would recommend having a stretch, looking out at some greenery, getting a hot drink or even lying down and closing your eyes. Some apps that might help: TomatoTimer, Time Out and Eyecare 20 20 20.

2. Adjust Your Study Time Frame

We are all unique individuals with our own ideal timings built for focus. You can try the famous Pomodoro Technique, which encourages people to work with the time they have rather than work against it. In the Pomodoro Technique, you will choose a task and allocate the total time you need for it. Set your timer to 25 minutes, work furiously and then take a 5 minute break. That’s it, you will have completed ‘1 Pomodoro’. After completing 4 sets of Pomodoros, you can give yourself a 20 to 30 minute break. Adjust this method as you see fit for yourself, and you will start to see improvements in your focus!

3. Include Exercise in Your Day

A lack of movement does generally contribute to lethargy, especially if you are on HBL. Even an activity as simple as stretching first thing in the morning will get your blood flowing and freshen up your mind for tasks in the day. If you are not a morning person, try some night cycling or an evening walk (with permission of course) and you will find your sleep greatly improved and your mind ready and set to concentrate the next morning.

4. Play Memory Games

That’s right! You are actually encouraged to play games in this instance. Memory games have been proven to build focus and to force you to concentrate. Some simple games only take 5 minutes to play and the increased attention you are forced to give in order to jog your memory will help you when you need to memorise dates or formulas. There are plenty of apps available but if you want to try a simple web-based site, you can go to: Memozor.

5. Reflect and Alternate Tasks

Reflect on a timetable after you have gone through the day or week. Were you more distracted on a Monday after the weekend and would prefer to focus on revising Math that day? Were you energized after a workout on a Thursday and felt like concentrating on History and Chemistry? Does writing out an English essay on a Friday feel like a drag? Alternate and move your timetable around as you see fit. There is no need to stick to or force yourself to a set schedule if it is not working out for you. Try writing down how you feel after each day e.g. ‘Today I took 2 hours to try just one sum, and I felt drained as I couldn’t get the answer’ or ‘Doing Biology revision on a Wednesday afternoon is great as it is just after Biology lessons in the morning’.

6. Remove Distractions

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People on a diet often remove all snacks and unhealthy foods from their fridges and cupboards, so that they aren’t tempted to eat them. Similarly, your study area should be distraction free. Place your phone outside your room if it is a source of distraction (and make sure you don’t have any apps on your laptop with friends messaging). Remove any clutter such as a gaming laptop or anything else that is a usual source of distraction.

7. Break Down Your Task

A lack of focus often stems from a task being perceived as too difficult or impossible at the beginning. Try breaking the task down into small steps and bite sized chunks, and then concentrate on finishing only that little chunk for the day. Make a checklist of the little chunks and then tick them off when you’re done. You will find a deep sense of satisfaction from being able to tick off the little bits and when the entire task is finally done, you can give yourself a clap on the back for being both organised and for a job well done!

The ‘O’ Levels: How to Achieve Your Goals

Rebecca Samuel · April 6, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Goal setting may appear to be a simple process. However, in order to be productive and effective, a goal must be specific and clear."

Achieving your goals of doing well for your O level examinations may not be as daunting as you think. There are steps you can take, and help that you can depend on. If you develop good habits and achieve consistency, there are hardly any limits to what you can achieve with your life!

Goal Setting

Take some time to sit down and really think through the goals you plan to achieve. It is often useful to start with the end in mind, e.g. planning on studying marine biology in a university overseas or getting into a JC of your choice. These are end goals that will help you to see the bigger picture, and keep you motivated. You can then set out individual goals for each of your subjects. Finally, work on the plan to attain each of these goals. It can involve reading one book a month to improve on your English or working on one question type for a particular topic every day for Math. Break down the steps to attain your bigger goals into very small, attainable goals.

Managing Expectations

Figure out which subjects you need more help for, and which ones you can handle by yourself. If you have been consistently failing or obtaining a C5/C6 in a subject, it is unrealistic to set a goal of getting an A1 by the next exam. Work your way up to a better grade slowly but surely. Remember, consistency is key.

Don’t compare yourself to others; focus on your own progress and improvement, setting realistic expectations that align with your abilities and efforts.

Honing Study Habits

Your study habits are the most important element of your exam preparation. Every student learns differently, so stick to what works for you. You might be a morning person or a night owl, someone who can only work with colour coded notes or with copious amounts of coffee. Try out any of the tips below:

Minimise or remove all distractions from your study space (this includes putting your phone on work/study mode or leaving it outside your room)
Take breaks – try out any interval that works for you e.g. 40 minutes study time with 10 minute breaks or 25 minutes study time with 5 minute breaks.
Study in a conducive space – ensure it is quiet, cool enough and distraction free.
Set a study goal for each session, and ensure that you meet it to the best of your ability. This will give you a sense of accomplishment.
Reward yourself! Rewards can be anything which give you a feeling of contentment and spur you on to keep studying!
Ask for help: Grinding away during study sessions without progress can be discouraging. Try out tuition sessions at https://curio.sg/programmes/
Study with a group of like-minded friends. You can keep each other motivated as well as help one another with more challenging topics.

Achieving your goals may seem like a daunting task, especially if there are subjects you are struggling with. Speak to your parents, teachers and tutors and get some tailor made advice. Start early and stick to a solid plan. You’ve got this.

Is It Safe for Teenagers to Consume Caffeine?

Nadya Sharfina · April 6, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Caffeine consumption in teenagers has been linked to sleep disruptions, impaired school performance and social issues."

Many teenagers consume coffee to get through the rigour of school, extra-curricular activities, tuition and revision, but they may want to reconsider. Coffee can be hazardous to a teenager’s health and development, especially when over consumed. Caffeine consumption in teenagers has been linked to sleep disruptions, impaired school performance and social issues. It can also increase stress levels and lead to physical health problems such as obesity and insulin resistance.

Sugar is a major reason why some beverages are unhealthy, but caffeine should not be missed. We have explored why it is not safe or healthy for teenagers to consume caffeine from coffee or energy drinks, and what parents could do instead.

The Hazards of Caffeine Consumption

Caffeine is a stimulant and can have a powerful effect on the body, making teenagers feel more alert and energetic. This may seem like a good thing, but it could lead to physical and mental health problems down the line.

The overconsumption of coffee can cause a wide range of physical, emotional, and cognitive symptoms. These may include:

Headaches
Nausea
Vomiting
Irritability
Tremors or shakes

Difficulty concentrating and focusing
Increased heart rate and blood pressure

Convulsions or seizures
Mood swings
Impulsivity.
Dehydration due to frequent urination

Caffeine is known to reduce the quality of deep sleep during the night which could lead to chronic sleep deprivation. This disruption affects children’s cognitive functioning and emotional regulation in addition to their physical growth. Studies have linked the overconsumption of coffee in children to anxiety and depression due to its impact on sleep.

The Dangers of Sugary Drinks

Any caffeinated beverages marketed to kids come loaded with sugar. This makes them even more hazardous than coffee alone because consuming too much sugar can lead to serious health issues like diabetes, heart disease, and obesity. Parents should be aware of the sugar content in caffeinated drinks their children consume and try to limit their sugar intake as much as possible.

It is also crucial for parents to remember that energy drinks can be hazardous because they often contain more caffeine than coffee, plus large amounts of sugar. Not only does this combination provide an extra-strong boost of energy, it can also put kids at risk for serious health consequences if consumed in excess. For these reasons, parents should discourage their children from drinking energy drinks and give them options for healthier alternatives instead.

Alternatives to Coffee

If you want to give your kids a boost of energy without relying on caffeine, there are other alternatives you can explore. To keep your kids energised and healthy, you can offer them natural sources of caffeine such as:

Herbal teas. Peppermint and chamomile have calming effects, while green tea is packed with antioxidants that can help boost energy levels naturally.
Hot Chocolate: Hot chocolate made from cocoa powder is a delicious alternative to coffee. Cocoa beans have caffeine, and a large cup of hot cocoa has as much as 25mg of it.

Non-caffeinated beverages which you could try include:

Smoothies
Fruit juices

Kombucha
Coconut Water

Kefir
Lemon water

These contain many natural sugars that can provide energy without relying on caffeine, sugar-filled sodas, and energy drinks. Of course, it is still important to watch out for added sugars in these beverages and ensure they don’t exceed their daily recommended limit. Otherwise, these are healthier choices than caffeinated products.

Educating Your Kids About Healthy Choices

It is important to educate your children on the importance of making healthy choices when it comes to their diet. Parents should begin by teaching their kids the effects that caffeine can have on their bodies and the risks associated with consuming too much.

Monitoring how many times per week they consume coffee is a good way to make sure kids don’t suffer from any of the health risks. Talk to a nutritionist if you need help understanding the best diet for your kids. Read 6 Tips for Your Kids to Have a Healthy School Year and Smart Food Choices for Kids’ During Exams.

Parents can also model positive behaviour by avoiding sugary drinks and setting an example for their children to follow. By taking the time to educate our children and set a positive example, you will be helping to ensure that your kids lead healthy lives.

How to Find Your Motivation: The What and the How

Rebecca Samuel · April 5, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Everyone is used to hearing maxims like “Stay Motivated!” or “Persevere! You can do it!” but no one tells us HOW."

Whether you have had to live through trying to motivate yourself through the ups and downs of the school year in 2020 or whether you struggle with motivation anyway, this article is for you. Everyone is used to hearing maxims like “Stay Motivated!” or “Persevere! You can do it!” but no one tells us HOW. So, we stumble along, try this and that. Truth is, there is a method to motivation, and the key to getting there is understanding the WHAT. What is Motivation?

The What

Educational psychologists espouse two main types of motivation, namely intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation. Ever become so engrossed in learning or doing something that you forgot to eat and didn’t even notice several hours slip by? Intrinsic motivation shows up when we have such an intense, genuine interest in the topic or subject that learning itself becomes a pleasure, and an all absorbing activity. Extrinsic motivation is when we have an external reward at the outcome of our learning. Good grades or a reward from parents for doing well are classic examples of extrinsic motivation.

Intrinsic motivation is of course, highly desired by us all, and it has been linked clearly with higher levels of academic achievement and better mental health. It’s impossible for us however, to conjure up intrinsic motivation whenever we feel like it. Calculus can’t always be done in a burst of inspiration, and neither can that history essay on World War II.

Some people use a mixture of intrinsic and extrinsic motivation to push themselves. Enjoying the study of Shakespeare will be so much better with an A1 to show for it. Using a mixture of the two types of motivation is probably the best way for most students to push themselves and move forward.

The How: Intrinsic Motivation

Find a place where you study best, be it a cafe, your kitchen table or the school library, and stick to the few places where you feel both comfortable and undistracted.
Decide an order in which you will tackle your homework or study plan, whether it’s starting with the hardest bits first or the other way around, but have a plan.
Adults, nag less and praise more. praise creates intrinsic motivation when it’s heartfelt and celebrates effort (e.g. “you worked really hard,” vs. “you’re so clever”) and communicates encouragement, not pressure (e.g. “you’re doing really well, keep it up” vs. “you’re doing really well, just like I asked you to”)

The How: Extrinsic Motivation

They can be really really small rewards, but very useful. 45 minutes of studying followed by say, a bubble tea or 10 minutes of TikTok or a 15 minute power nap. Even ticking off a to-do list can provide a sense of accomplishment. Make sure it’s at least somewhat healthy or enjoyable without destroying your rhythm and focus, then get right back to studying.
Study in intervals and figure out the best combination for you. It can be 25 minutes of study followed by a 5 minute break or 75 minutes study followed by a 15 minute break. You do you.
Adults, talk to kids about their extrinsic motivations and then give them a little boost along the way, whether it’s hugs or Hawaiian pizza.

There are incredibly creative ways to keep your motivation going, and they do indeed carry on into adulthood and work life. Try different ways until you figure out what works best for you. Importantly, don’t kick yourself when you’re down. Everyone has bad days when they feel like they can’t get anything done. Move on to the next day, and try, try, try again.

How to Cope with Exam Anxiety and Perform at Your Best

Rebecca Samuel · April 5, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"As a student, you can take several steps yourself to prevent a build-up of stress. Stress is like an invisible load that gets heavier if you ignore it or choose not to deal with it."

Read the statements below. Does one or more of them apply to you?

“I often worry that it will be difficult for me to take a test.”
“I worry I will get poor grades at school.”
“I feel very anxious even if I am well prepared for a test.”
“I get very tense when I study for a test.”
“I get nervous when I do not know how to solve a task at school!”

These were the questions posed to 5,825 Singaporean students in a study conducted by the Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD) in 2017. The response was disturbing: 76% of students reported feeling extremely anxious for a test, even if they were well prepared for it, and the results overall revealed high levels of stress and distress when it comes to academic performance.

This isn’t news to any of us. Students in Singapore have been exhibiting and complaining about stress for many years. The Ministry of Education takes a serious view of it and has taken and continues to take measures to combat this issue on many levels, especially before it takes a turn for the worse.

One reason for this level of stress probably just goes back to our culture. Our predominantly Asian population retains an intense focus on the value and importance of education. Images of our grand and great grandparents spanking our ancestors and forcing them to study with candlelight over many hours comes to mind. Culturally, being only the very best at one’s educational pursuits has often been viewed as the only path to success.

Some steps you can take are:

Pay attention to your sleep. Having regular hours of sleep is more important to your performance than studying late into the night, and being exhausted throughout the school day.
Drink plenty of water. Water is brain juice, it helps to clear your mind and refresh your body.
Eat your fruits and vegetables! Bubble tea and fried snacks are yummy, but don’t forget to eat your fruits and vegetables regularly, as they are crucial for your well-being and overall health.
Communicate with a loved one about your problems, be it a family member or a good friend. Talking it out will help ease your mind and heart.
Set realistic goals. Don’t stuff your timetable with so much work that your mind becomes too exhausted to continue.
Have a plan! Planning out your revision will help you focus on your weaker subjects without neglecting your stronger ones.
Believe in yourself! Write out goals and notes of encouragement to yourself and stick it up on your laptop or even your bedroom walls! (You can get friends and family to write them too, the more the merrier!)