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How to Adjust to Life in Secondary 1

Rebecca Samuel · April 8, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Then secondary school life begins and it does not seem at all like what anyone expected."

PSLE, the Everest of every primary school student’s life has been defeated, and you and your child are relieved beyond measure. Then secondary school life begins and it does not seem at all like what anyone expected. Double the subjects and triple the work needed to stay on track? CCAs with auditions, seniors who all know what they are doing and teachers who seem to talk too fast. Read on to find out how to detangle, and demystify your child’s new path.

Configure a New Routine

There are more subjects to handle coupled with CCA. The psychological impact of being in a new environment, trying to mingle, fit in and make friends also has to be taken into account. Routines will thus become extremely important in helping your child cope with the added stress. Going to bed and waking up at the same time everyday and specifying what ought to be scheduled after school hours – including time for lunch, rest and play – will make all the difference. Allow your child to have a say in this timetabling as well, and make sure that it is neither too stringent nor too relaxing.

Implement Habits of Mind

Source: Screengrab from teachthought.com

Habits of Mind are dispositions that are mindfully employed by characteristically intelligent, successful people when they are confronted with problems. When we draw upon these mental resources, the results are more powerful, of higher quality, and of greater significance than if we fail to employ those habits. ‘Finding humour’ will help you to relax and take on stresses with some ease. Metacognition or ‘Thinking about your Thinking’ will aid you and your child to be more aware of the way you think and the reasons for why you arrive at a certain conclusion. Try some of them out yourself before introducing them to your child!

Give Your Child a Head Start

Ensure that both you and your child have a nice, relaxing break after PSLE. If you are nervous about some of the new subjects and demands that will arise in Secondary 1 however, find some fun, engaging holiday classes with preparatory lessons for the year ahead. This might assuage some anxiety, so long as it does not involve the stress of ‘mugging’ or a tutor who is obsessed with piling on holiday homework. Check out the classes offered at Curio: https://curio.sg/programmes/

Life in Secondary 1 will be daunting at first, and then the year will fly by and you will both settle into a new phase in your lives. Enjoy the journey!

The Importance of Talking to Your Kids About Social Media

Nadya Sharfina · April 8, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"As parents, it is important for us to understand social media and how it works. We need to be aware of the dangers associated with using social media, as well as the benefits."

As parents, we want our kids to be smart. We want them to make good decisions, get good grades in school, and stay out of trouble. But sometimes it can be challenging to know how to support our kids to succeed. One area where parents often need help is teaching kids how to use social media safely and responsibly.

Kids today are growing up in a world where social media is an integral part of their lives. They use it to communicate with friends, share information, and stay connected. As parents, it is important for us to understand social media and how it works. We need to be aware of the dangers associated with using social media, as well as the benefits.

Thankfully, there are some things parents can do to help their kids be smart while using social media.

Introduce Kids to Social Media at a Young Age

Parents should introduce kids to social media at a young age. This will help kids learn about it early on, and it will also help them be more aware of the dangers of using social media. Many parents don’t talk to their kids about the dangers of social media until it is too late.

Warn Kids About the Dangers of Social Media

Social media can be a great tool for kids, but if they are not properly informed of its dangers, it can also be a source of risk. Parents need to be aware of the dangers that come with using social media, such as cyberbullying, sexting, online predators, exposure to inappropriate content, and data privacy issues. Parents should take the time to explain these issues and emphasize why kids need to be careful when using social media.

In addition, kids need to be aware of the potential for online scams and fraud. They should never click on links from unknown sources, and not purchase anything online without parental permission.

Set Expectations and Boundaries

Parents should set clear expectations and boundaries for kids when it comes to social media. They should talk about the consequences of inappropriate behavior and explain why posting certain types of content is dangerous. Kids should be made aware that there are limits to what they can post, and that once something is online, it can be hard to take back.

The conversation between kids and parents should also include a discussion about respect, both on social media and in real life. Kids should know that it is not okay to say hurtful things about someone else through bullying or gossip.

In turn, parents agree to respect their kids’ privacy while making an effort to be part of the conversation and have them share their social media experiences.

Show Kids How to Use Privacy Settings Correctly

Parents should also ensure that kids are using their privacy settings correctly. Many social media sites have options to keep certain information private and kids need to be aware of these settings. Parents should remind kids that not everything needs to be shared online and they should take the time to explain why it is important to keep some things private.

Encourage Kids to Think Before They Post

Kids need to understand that anything they post online can be seen by others. Parents should make sure kids know not to post anything they would not want their parents or teachers to see. Kids need to be aware of the fact that what they post now can have serious consequences in the future.

It is important for kids to understand that they should think carefully before they post anything online. Parents should remind kids that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is, and they should never share personal information with strangers. They should also know that it is okay to block or ignore people who are harassing them online.

Set Rules for Using Technology and Enforce Them

Parents should also set clear boundaries and expectations when it comes to kids using technology, including social media. Doing so will help kids understand the limits that are in place and why they are important. Parents should talk with kids about how much time is appropriate for them to spend on social media and make sure kids stick to these rules.

It is also important for kids to understand the consequences of breaking these rules. Parents should make sure kids know that there will be repercussions if they don’t follow the guidelines set by their parents, such as having their devices taken away or other disciplinary measures.

By setting clear expectations and enforcing them, kids can learn how to use social media responsibly and understand the consequences of their actions. It will also help kids stay safe when using social media, as well as instill a sense of responsibility in kids.

Why Is It Important for Parents?

It can be difficult to talk to kids about social media and the dangers that come with it, but it is important to step in to keep them safe. Parents should take the time to discuss the risks associated with social media and they should also explain the importance of using it responsibly. By having these important conversations early on, parents can help kids to make smart choices online and ultimately keep them safe from potential harm. It is not always easy, but it is worth it in the end.

An Easy Guide to Understanding Gen Z Slang

Nadya Sharfina · April 7, 2023 · Leave a Comment

Are you a parent feeling overwhelmed by the slang words used by your Gen Z kids?

Don’t worry, you’re not alone!

Every generation of children has their own way of speaking, particularly when it comes to slang. With the rise of social media and internet slang, it can be difficult for parents to keep up with all the new words their kids use. We have compiled a comprehensive guide to help decode slang so parents can stay up-to-date on their kids’ conversations.

With this guide, you’ll learn all about what these slang words mean and how they’re used in conversation. So let’s get started, it’s time for parents everywhere to mind their Gen Z language!

Low-Key

Can be used as an adjective to describe something that is kept quiet or not publicly known.

How to use it: “I low-key love watching reality TV all day.” or “The new cafe in town is low-key and basic, but the food is delicious.”

Flex

Can be used as a noun or verb and means to show off.

How to use it: “Look at him over there flexin’ in his new car.” or “She flexes so much but hardly knows anything.”

Sip Tea

Slang words for gossiping, or just sitting back and listening to the gossip without participating in it.

How to use it: “I heard about what happened yesterday but I’m just gonna sip the tea.”

Pick-Me Girl/Boy

A derogatory term that refers to someone who desperately seeks attention and validation from others. Someone who claims that they’re not like most people.

How to use it: “Ugh, why is she acting like a pick-me girl?” or “Don’t mind him, he’s just a pick-me boy.”

Salty

Can be used when someone is feeling bitter or upset.

How to use it: “He didn’t invite me to the party, I’m so salty.” or “She got really salty with me because I dumped her.”

Boomer

A slang term used to refer to someone older and out of touch with the current trends. The generation is often defined as people born from 1946 to 1964.

How to use it: “He just doesn’t understand anything about technology, he’s such a boomer!”

Sus

Short for “suspicious”, slang used to describe someone who is behaving strangely or in a sketchy way.

How to use it: “She’s been acting pretty sus, I think she’s hiding something.”

Simp

To describe someone who is overly nice or too eager to please.

How to use it: “He’s always trying to buy her gifts and do favours for her, what a simp!”

Slaps

To describe something really good.

How to use it: “This new season of the show slaps!” or “Your taste in music slaps!”

Slay

To describe someone who is doing something really well.

How to use it: “Person: Does my outfit look good?” Friend: “Yes, slay!”

Sleeping On

To describe missing out on something or not having noticed something before.

How to use it: “I’m so glad we finally noticed how great her art was, we were sleeping on it for too long.”

Stan

Originated from Eminem’s iconic song of the same name, slang used for the obsessive fans of a popular celebrity. It can also be used as a verb.

How to use it: “I’m a Bon Iver stan.” or “I will stan Bon Iver forever!”

Let’s Get This Bread!

A slang term for making money.

How to use it: “I’m about to go out and try to get this bread by working some overtime!” or “The holiday is over, let’s get this bread!”

Yeet

To put something in motion with force. It can also be used as an exclamation of excitement, approval, surprise, or disbelief.

How to use it: “I just yeeted my keys across the room!” or “We just got tickets to the game! Yeet!”

TFW

Slang acronym for “That Feeling When…” A casual way of expressing a shared emotion.

How to use it: “TFW you finish your final exam and don’t have to study or have tuition for the rest of the year”.”

SMH

Slang acronym for “Shaking My Head” and is usually used to show exasperation.

How to use it: “He just made a mistake on the project again. SMH.”

TBH

Slang acronym for “To Be Honest”

How to use it: Person: “Do you like my new dress?” Friend: “TBH, not really.”

Steez

Slang for a particular style and attitude.

How to use it: “She’s got some serious steez!” or “His steez is unmatched!”

Cheugy

Pronounced “chew-gee”. Slang adjective to mock someone or something uncool and out of date.

How to use it: “I just don’t wear those jeans anymore, they’re so cheugy!”

No Cap

To show that you are being genuine and not exaggerating.

How to use it: “I swear it was the best night of my life, no cap!” or “I got a scholarship to New York University, no cap!”

Now that you know all about Gen Z slang, it’s time to get out there and start using it! Don’t be afraid to have some fun with these words but remember to use them with respect. Who knows, you might even learn a thing or two and get slang savvy in no time! Happy slangin’!

IP, IB or ‘O’ Levels. Which is the Best Path?

Rebecca Samuel · April 7, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Which path will work out best in the long run, IP, IB or 'O' Levels?"

Today, Singapore is known for its world-class education system. During the 1950s and 60s however, Singapore banked on a ‘survival-driven’ education system in order to generate a skilled workforce for the nation’s industrialisation push. We have come a long way since then, and there are now multiple pathways to a promising future.

The Cambridge ‘O’ Level/SEC Programme

Statistics from MOE, Singapore

The ‘O’ Levels have been offered in Singapore since 1971. It is considered a traditional path with rigorous academic demand.

Indeed, the majority of Singaporeans have gone through this particular exam and gone on to obtain acceptance into higher education institutions with ease.

The Cambridge ‘O’ Levels are widely recognised by both universities and employers internationally as evidence of excellent academic achievement.

Students are allowed to take up to a maximum of 9 subjects, and a minimum of 6.

From 2027, students will sit for the Singapore-Cambridge Secondary Education Certificate (SEC) examinations. There will be no change to the existing syllabus and examination format, beyond the regular updates that occur for each subject. The SEC exams will still be examined and awarded by Cambridge, as well as MOE and the Singapore Examinations and Assessment Board. The difference between the current format and SEC is that students will be taking subjects based on their strengths in each subject, and not based on a stream as is the case today.

Grading is carried out as follows.

What Type of Student Would Enjoy the ‘O’ Level/SEC Programme?

The ‘O’ levels are considered the ‘traditional’ or ‘safe’ route by many, and in terms of opening up opportunities for higher education, it certainly is.

Many consider the programme to be content heavy with a focus on grades and academia, but schools and educators today have a variety of tools and resources in order to bring out the best in every student.

Students will have to take ownership of their education, learn how to take notes, condense and summarise their own learning.

Students who enjoy the ‘O’ level programme are driven by their interests, are determined to succeed and are willing to take risks, fail and learn from their mistakes.

The Integrated Programme (IP)

The Integrated Programme (IP) was introduced in 2004 in only 8 schools. It caters for high-ability students in Singapore at the secondary school level. Instead of taking the GCE Ordinary Level (O-level) exam in Sec 4 or Sec 5, they will take the GCE Advanced Level (A-level) exam or the International Baccalaureate (IB) after six years of secondary education.

The IP is offered in the following 17 schools at the time of writing:

Nanyang Girls’ High School	Catholic High School	Singapore Chinese Girls’ School
National Junior College	Cedar Girls’ Secondary School	Temasek Junior College
Raffles Girls’ School (Secondary)	CHIJ St Nicholas Girls’ School	Victoria School
Raffles Institution (Secondary)	Dunman High School	Hwa Chong Institution
River Valley High School

Schools offering the IP in Singapore

What type of student would enjoy the IP programme?

Academically, the IP is targeted at the top 10% of scorers in each PSLE cohort. The programme provides students with space to learn beyond textbooks and explore their interests in depth. Not having to spend 4 years in preparation for the ‘O’ levels allows for the time needed for students to delve deep in both academic and non-academic areas.

Schools offering the IP have the freedom to implement curriculum that imparts critical and analytical thinking skills, character building and leadership development.

Students who do well in the IP tend to be disciplined, motivated learners who are capable of keeping track of their own goals and progress. They truly enjoy school, learning and new challenges.

The International Baccalaureate (IB) Diploma Programme

The International Baccalaureate (IB) was founded in 1968. It offers a rigorous educational programme which is internationally lauded and renowned for its propensity to cultivate global citizens.

Creativity and the imagination are at the heart of the curriculum and students explore global issues with compassion as well as intellectual curiosity. Students don’t just learn, they also learn how to learn and are encouraged to excel both in their personal and academic lives.

6 subject groups form the IBDP: studies in language and literature; language acquisition; individuals and societies; the arts; mathematics; and the sciences. Students choose courses from these six groups, although choosing a subject from ‘The Arts’ is not always compulsory, depending on the school. Other subjects include Theory of Knowledge and Extended Essay.

The IBDP is offered at the secondary level in the following 5 schools (local) at the time of writing:

Anglo Chinese School (ACS) Independent	SJI International
Hwa Chong International School	School of the Arts (SOTA)
Anglo Chinese School (ACS) International

Local schools offering the IB in Singapore

A total of 28 schools (both local and international) currently offer the IBDP in Singapore.

What type of student would enjoy the IB programme?

Any student would benefit from the breadth and unique approaches to teaching which are available in the IBDP programme.

Perhaps one way to consider if you would thrive in the IB programme is to compare exam conditions. ‘O’ and ‘A’ level exams can be content heavy and grade focused, whilst IB students are graded on other assignments as well prior to the final exam.

About 70 to 80% of the final grade is determined by the final IB exams, giving some breathing space for students to work more gradually on achieving a desired grade.

The IB programme is thus suitable for students who are adept at time management, enjoy learning independently and conducting research.

Looking for Help with Some Subjects?

Curio offers English Language, English Literature and General Paper group tuition in online classes. We cover the ‘O’ level, ‘A’ level and the new Singapore-Cambridge Secondary Education Certificate (SEC) which is to be offered in 2027. We also teach students in the Integrated Programme (IP) be it English, Literature or Language Arts.

Beyond online group sessions, Curio also offers a unique Marking and Feedback programme for individual, independent learners. Students receive personalised worksheets on a weekly basis. Upon completion, Curio teachers will mark and provide personalised feedback. Curio teachers are also available via whatsapp and email for questions on anything related to the subject. Many of our students thrive from not having to block out time to attend weekly lessons, but still have the benefit of a Curio coach’s nurturing and experience.

To find out more, call or get in touch with us on whatsapp at 8892 2948. We are also available on email: [email protected].

How to Handle DSA Interviews

Rebecca Samuel · April 6, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"The Direct School Admission scheme for secondary schools in Singapore allows students to apply to specific schools before taking the PSLE."

Has your DSA Interview been scheduled? Or are you still figuring out whether DSA is something your child should consider? Read on to understand more about the DSA process and for interview tips!

The Direct School Admission scheme for secondary schools in Singapore allows students to apply to specific schools before taking the PSLE.

Students apply based on their talent in sports, CCAs and specific academic areas. These areas include:

Sports and games
Visual, literary and performing arts
Debate and public speaking
Science, mathematics and engineering
Languages and humanities
Uniformed groups
Leadership (for example, prefects)

Preparing for the DSA Application Process:

1. Research

Research and read up about the school that you and your child are interested in. Focus also on the talent that your child plans to use to apply and most importantly, discuss everything with your child. If they are not truly interested or feeling forced/stressed out about this choice, it will show in the interview. Some parents also over-prepare and this can be unhealthy if it stresses your child out unnecessarily. Memorised answers and parrot-like responses don’t do well at interviews, while real interest and knowledge about a topic will always be evident.

2. Prepare for a Variety of Questions

Typical questions would include: 1. Why should the school pick you? 2. Describe some of your interests and passions. 3. What are some personal qualities that make you unique? 4. Why did you pick this school? 5. What do you hope to do with your talent in the future?

However, also prepare your child for more introspective questions like: 1. If you were playing opposite your best friend and they asked you to lose on purpose, what would you do? 2. If you made a huge mistake while performing on stage how would you handle it? 3. If you had to pick one scientist/mathematician/famous person to have dinner with, who would you pick? 4. If you are the captain of your team and you are losing the game, what strategy would you use to try and win?

3. Get Students to Discuss Topics with Other Adults

At the end of the day, the interviews are a 2 way conversation and not a speech. If your child can speak naturally with other adults in their lives – uncles, aunts, tutors, friends – get them to have conversations with them about their personality and interests to develop confidence, so that they get used to speaking about themselves candidly and sincerely.

At the end of the day, schools are looking for students who have and can display genuine interest in the talent that they are using for the application, as well as personable students who are genuinely interested in joining the school.

Is It Safe for Teenagers to Consume Caffeine?

Nadya Sharfina · April 6, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Caffeine consumption in teenagers has been linked to sleep disruptions, impaired school performance and social issues."

Many teenagers consume coffee to get through the rigour of school, extra-curricular activities, tuition and revision, but they may want to reconsider. Coffee can be hazardous to a teenager’s health and development, especially when over consumed. Caffeine consumption in teenagers has been linked to sleep disruptions, impaired school performance and social issues. It can also increase stress levels and lead to physical health problems such as obesity and insulin resistance.

Sugar is a major reason why some beverages are unhealthy, but caffeine should not be missed. We have explored why it is not safe or healthy for teenagers to consume caffeine from coffee or energy drinks, and what parents could do instead.

The Hazards of Caffeine Consumption

Caffeine is a stimulant and can have a powerful effect on the body, making teenagers feel more alert and energetic. This may seem like a good thing, but it could lead to physical and mental health problems down the line.

The overconsumption of coffee can cause a wide range of physical, emotional, and cognitive symptoms. These may include:

Headaches
Nausea
Vomiting
Irritability
Tremors or shakes

Difficulty concentrating and focusing
Increased heart rate and blood pressure

Convulsions or seizures
Mood swings
Impulsivity.
Dehydration due to frequent urination

Caffeine is known to reduce the quality of deep sleep during the night which could lead to chronic sleep deprivation. This disruption affects children’s cognitive functioning and emotional regulation in addition to their physical growth. Studies have linked the overconsumption of coffee in children to anxiety and depression due to its impact on sleep.

The Dangers of Sugary Drinks

Any caffeinated beverages marketed to kids come loaded with sugar. This makes them even more hazardous than coffee alone because consuming too much sugar can lead to serious health issues like diabetes, heart disease, and obesity. Parents should be aware of the sugar content in caffeinated drinks their children consume and try to limit their sugar intake as much as possible.

It is also crucial for parents to remember that energy drinks can be hazardous because they often contain more caffeine than coffee, plus large amounts of sugar. Not only does this combination provide an extra-strong boost of energy, it can also put kids at risk for serious health consequences if consumed in excess. For these reasons, parents should discourage their children from drinking energy drinks and give them options for healthier alternatives instead.

Alternatives to Coffee

If you want to give your kids a boost of energy without relying on caffeine, there are other alternatives you can explore. To keep your kids energised and healthy, you can offer them natural sources of caffeine such as:

Herbal teas. Peppermint and chamomile have calming effects, while green tea is packed with antioxidants that can help boost energy levels naturally.
Hot Chocolate: Hot chocolate made from cocoa powder is a delicious alternative to coffee. Cocoa beans have caffeine, and a large cup of hot cocoa has as much as 25mg of it.

Non-caffeinated beverages which you could try include:

Smoothies
Fruit juices

Kombucha
Coconut Water

Kefir
Lemon water

These contain many natural sugars that can provide energy without relying on caffeine, sugar-filled sodas, and energy drinks. Of course, it is still important to watch out for added sugars in these beverages and ensure they don’t exceed their daily recommended limit. Otherwise, these are healthier choices than caffeinated products.

Educating Your Kids About Healthy Choices

It is important to educate your children on the importance of making healthy choices when it comes to their diet. Parents should begin by teaching their kids the effects that caffeine can have on their bodies and the risks associated with consuming too much.

Monitoring how many times per week they consume coffee is a good way to make sure kids don’t suffer from any of the health risks. Talk to a nutritionist if you need help understanding the best diet for your kids. Read 6 Tips for Your Kids to Have a Healthy School Year and Smart Food Choices for Kids’ During Exams.

Parents can also model positive behaviour by avoiding sugary drinks and setting an example for their children to follow. By taking the time to educate our children and set a positive example, you will be helping to ensure that your kids lead healthy lives.

Navigating Kids Secure Online: Tips and Suggestions

Nadya Sharfina · April 6, 2023 · Leave a Comment

“It is crucial in today's world to be aware of how to use the internet safely”

It can be intimidating to navigate the internet, particularly for young people who may not have much online experience. By following some simple rules and guidelines, you can ensure that these experiences remain positive for young people. This article will explore tips on making good decisions when navigating the internet and staying safe online.

The Need for Antivirus Software in Online Security

Internet filters, monitoring tools, and antivirus software can help users to stay safe online by being protected against threats.

Internet filters are an effective way to limit internet access by blocking unwanted websites and content.
Monitoring tools can be used to monitor internet usage and quickly detect any suspicious activity.
Antivirus software can help internet users protect their devices from malicious programs, viruses, and other internet threats.

These tools can also assist in defending young internet users against online predators, cyberbullying, and other harmful actions. Here are some of the top antivirus programs to help safeguard yourself as well as your computer:

McAfee

It is a good pick for multiple devices because its subscriptions provide security for every device in a home at an affordable price. It comes with features like safe web browsing, identity theft protection, a password manager, encrypted storage and full network protection.

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Norton

To counter cybersecurity risks, Norton is renowned for using machine learning, which makes use of data to enhance technological performance. It provides a wide variety of antivirus options and a sizable amount of cloud storage. A firewall, VPN, password manager, identity theft protection, and robust parental controls are available extras.

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Bitdefender

It provides a range of security-first capabilities, including ransomware prevention, monitoring of online purchases and web-based transactions as well as protection against fraud and phishing, all of which are controlled through an intuitive dashboard.

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Webroot

This antivirus program offers customers the essential security they need while browsing the internet as well as parental controls because some of the features can be customized to safeguard children.

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Avast

Even the free version of this antivirus software is quite effective at detecting and eliminating malware such as viruses and ransomware. Additionally, your Wi-Fi network is protected from being hacked and from other dangers with its built-in security. Paid versions come with further features including IP address blocking, bogus website identification, phishing protection, and security for browser-stored passwords.

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Stick to Safer Websites and Avoid Age-Restricted Content

By limiting young people to sites that are appropriate for their age, you can protect them from inappropriate material and potential dangers on the internet. Age restrictions exist to ensure that kids do not have access to the content they may not be prepared for or may find upsetting or distressing.

In general, it is advisable for young internet users to avoid exposure to potentially harmful content such as violence, drug usage, graphic imagery, and explicit language. Avoiding age-restricted websites also prevents kids from inadvertently accessing adult-themed conversations which could lead them astray or mislead them in some way.

To make parents’ jobs easier, there are numerous parental control programs that can help protect your children when they are online. The most recent versions of Mac OS and Windows already have parental control software, but you may also buy standalone versions that have more capabilities and flexibility. Software like Norton Family, Net Nanny, and Qustodio should do the trick.

Take Extra Caution When Using Passwords and Sharing Information Online

To protect your personal information from unscrupulous hackers in today’s digital age, secure passwords are crucial for all of yours as well as your kids’ online accounts.

A weak password may be easy to remember but it also makes it easier for someone else to guess and gain access to your accounts. This means that anyone who obtains this password will have full access to all the sensitive information stored on these accounts, such as credit card details, banking information, or even private messages.

Creating a strong password is not difficult. A secure password should have at least 8 characters and be made up of a mix of capital and lowercase letters, numbers, and symbols that are challenging for other people to decipher. It is also necessary to avoid using words or phrases related to yourself in your passwords such as birth dates, names of family members or pets, or favourite sports teams. You can change your passwords every few months to ensure they remain secure.

A second line of defense against malevolent hackers seeking to access your information is to enable two-factor authentication on all of your online accounts in addition to using strong passwords. This requires you to enter both a password and a separate code sent to your phone or email address, making it much harder for someone to access your accounts.

Additionally, young people should be mindful of the information they share online. Remind your kids to share any sensitive details that could potentially be used for identity theft. Sharing too much personal information on social media sites or other public forums such as message boards can put your kids’ identity at risk and leave your family vulnerable to malicious hackers or scammers.

Although caution when sharing too much personal information online may seem like common sense advice in today’s digital environment, it is crucial for users of all ages and levels of experience to remember this to protect themselves from online attacks.

Be Courteous and Avoid Embarrassing Others on the Internet

The internet may be a fantastic and effective tool for bringing people together, but netizens should always be treated with respect by all users. Talk to your kids about online cruelty and bullying, and discuss how it could have detrimental effects on both the victim and the cyberbully.

Some talking points on cyberbullying could be about:

It is unethical, immoral, and wrong.
It significantly impacts mental health, potentially leading to depression, anxiety, and even suicide in extreme cases.
It could also lead to cyberstalking and other forms of online harassment which can also have severe consequences.
Several nations around the world have made cyberbullying a crime.

Inform an Adult If You Notice Strange or Negative Online Behavior

Internet safety is no joke, and young people must stay vigilant and aware of any strange or bad behavior online. Kids should be encouraged to tell their parents, guardians, or another trusted adult right away if they notice something that makes them feel uneasy or suspicious. Even if it turns out to be nothing, it is always preferable to be safe rather than sorry because online predators are notorious for preying on gullible victims.

What are some examples of suspicious behaviour online that your child can watch out for?

Receiving a message from someone they do not know asking for personal information such as their address or phone number.
If a stranger messages them multiple times and makes overly friendly comments that make them feel uncomfortable.
Receiving threatening messages.

What are some examples of unethical behaviour that your child should refrain from participating in?

Publishing incorrect or misleading information.
Stealing other people’s ideas or work without giving them credit.
Hacking into other people’s accounts.
Impersonating someone else online.

Always remember that there are internet predators as well. They are notorious for impersonating other people online, and they frequently get in touch with young people to win their trust before requesting them to meet up in person or perform inappropriate behavior. Teaching your kids about internet safety could help them identify potential risks early.

Pick Your Online Friends Wisely

It is crucial for kids to be selective about their online buddies and exercise additional caution while building interactions online.

The internet can be a double-edged sword, allowing us to connect easily with people all around the world, but it also exposes us to potential threats from malicious individuals. When it comes to choosing who to befriend online, it is best to teach kids to be cautious and err on the side of caution.

When trying to make new friends online, kids usually try looking for mutual interests or similar life experiences that they share in common with them. They should ask questions and get to know them better before they decide whether they are someone they would like as an online friend.

Parents should help to make sure that their profile is authentic and that there is evidence of them being who they say they are, such as pictures or other posts that prove their identity.

If your kids start talking with someone new online, remind them to avoid sharing personal information until after they have established a solid relationship, preferably in real life.

Kids should keep in mind that even if someone seems like an ideal friend online, this does not necessarily mean that they are trustworthy in real life.

The online world is one filled with both excitement and temptation. Learning internet safety early on will make a huge difference in the way kids use, learn from, and enjoy the many online spaces which take up so much of our lives. By following some of this advice on internet safety, we can ensure that kids are not at risk of becoming victims of cybercrime or other malicious activities taking place across the web today.

How to Get Your Kids Excited About the New School Year

Nadya Sharfina · April 6, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"The new school year is a great time for parents to help their children get off on the right foot."

The start of the school year brings mixed emotions for children and parents alike. For kids, it means saying goodbye to holidays spent playing with friends and embracing the structure that comes with returning to class. They are eager to return, but also concerned about their health and school safety and the outbreak’s impact on their academic progress. For parents, it is a time to prepare their children for success in the coming months, from organising study schedules to arranging for tuition and enrichment classes.

Parents want to give their children the best start possible in school. They want their children to be excited and ready to learn and grow. Here are some tips on ensuring your child has a positive outlook about starting their new school year and being motivated to succeed!

Get Your Child on a Sleep Schedule

Holiday season often means later bedtimes and unstructured days with plenty of opportunities to form unhealthy habits. All that has to change when school is starting. Sleep is important for concentration and memory, it can also help your child’s mood. Your child should get at least 7-9 hours of sleep if they are between 13 and 18 years old and 8-11 hours of sleep if they are younger. Begin their new sleep routine a week or two before school starts to adjust not only their sleep schedule mentally but physically as well. Their body’s internal clock needs to be reset so that they can wake up early for school feeling refreshed.

Create a Morning Routine

Establishing a routine takes time, but it can help your child adjust back to the school year. Help them set an alarm clock, practice getting dressed on their own, and make sure they eat breakfast. Doing this every day will eventually become second nature for your children and help them transition into their new school schedule.

Pack Necessary School Supplies

A few days before school starts, make a list of items your child will need to bring with them. Stock up on pencils and notebooks that they will use throughout the year. If there are any special items that their primary school or secondary school requires, make sure to add them to the list too. Items like calculators for older children, protractors, and rulers are essential for an efficient school year.

Talk About Exciting Aspects of School

With the right attitude, a school can be an exciting place to learn and grow. Help your child focus on the positive aspects of going back to school such as seeing their friends, making new ones, and learning new things. You can also talk about expectations for the upcoming year, like academic goals or extra-curricular activities they would like to join.

Discuss What Your Child Will Be Learning

Talking about exciting topics and activities that can be explored in school can get your child excited about the new school year. Make sure they know their upcoming syllabus, what is being taught in each subject, and how it relates to the real world. Even discussing the career paths associated with specific subjects can get your child interested and motivated to learn.

Set Goals Together for the Upcoming Year

Goals can be a great motivation for your child, so sit down and talk about what they would like to accomplish in the upcoming school year. These could include academic goals such as improving their grades, joining clubs, and volunteering. You can also set goals with them that have nothing to do with school, such as spending more quality time together.

Find Time to Bond with Your Child

School can be a stressful and busy time, so make sure you find the time to bond with your child even if it is just 20 minutes after school. Talk about their day and what they learned, ask them how they are feeling, or engage in fun activities with them. This is a great way to keep your child engaged and motivated to learn new things.

Celebrate Their Successes Throughout the Year

Make sure to celebrate your child’s successes throughout the school year. Whether it is getting 100% on a spelling test or acing their science project, praise your child and let them know they are doing great. A positive attitude will go a long way in helping your child stay motivated and excited about learning.

Check-in with Your Kids Regularly

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Keep in touch with your child’s teacher to ensure that your child is on track and making progress. This also helps you to stay updated on any changes or updates involving their classes and/or school life. Check-in with your children regularly and ask them how they are doing, what they are learning, and if there is anything you can do to help.

Encourage Healthy Habits

Healthy habits such as getting regular exercise, eating a balanced diet, and getting enough sleep will help your child focus in school. Encourage them to stay organised and take study breaks when needed. Helping them learn good time management skills can also be beneficial, especially in high school where they may have multiple assignments due on the same day.

By following these tips, you can make sure your child is set up for success in the upcoming school year. With a positive attitude and plenty of support from parents, children can get excited and motivated to start their school year!

How to Discuss LGBTQ Issues With Your Child

Nadya Sharfina · April 5, 2023 · Leave a Comment

“Open conversations on sensitive topics are opportunities to teach kids about the value of empathy and respect for others.”

Young people often learn about gender identity and LGBTQAI+ issues through friends, at school, or the media before ever discussing it with their parents. Many of the terms may be confusing to understand and easy to misinterpret. Unlike in the recent past, acceptance, and inclusivity preached by other youth are becoming the norm rather than the exception. Most kids however would still benefit from open conversations with their parents on the topic. Every parent wants the best for their children. However, providing support is not always easy, particularly if you are the parent of an LGBTQ child.

Understanding LGBTQ and Sexual Orientation

The letter “LGBTQ” is generally used to describe sexual orientation. This acronym is an abbreviation for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (or questioning)”

The term “transgender” refers to gender identity, and not sexual orientation. Gender refers to whether a person is male or female. Transgender people may have one gender’s body but believe they are of the opposite gender.

Meanwhile, sexual orientation refers to a person’s emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction to another person. There are various types of sexual orientation, such as:

Heterosexual

Males are romantically and physically attracted to heterosexual females, and heterosexual females are romantically and physically attracted to heterosexual males. Heterosexuals are often referred to as “straight.”

Homosexual

People who are romantically and physically attracted to people of the same gender.

Bisexual

People who are romantically and physically attracted to people of both sexes.

Asexual

People who are not interested in sex, sexual feelings, or desires.

Create a Safe and Nurturing Environment

The first step towards discussing LGBTQ issues is to create a safe and nurturing environment where your children can express their opinions on the topic, free of judgment. Your child may have noticed that LGBTQ children in their school may face sexual orientation discrimination at school, or even within their own families. If your child is confused or has questions about his or her identity and orientation as well, it is incredibly important that understanding and support come from you as the parent.

The next step is to have meaningful conversations on LGBTQ issues about gender identity and sexual orientation. You could start by simply asking them how they identify or what makes them feel comfortable. You can also discuss topics such as LGBTQ history and current events, which will help kids understand the cultural aspects of being LGBTQ in today’s society.

It is essential to remind LGBTQ children that everyone is unique and that it is acceptable for people to express themselves in whatever way feels natural and comfortable to them. Remind them that exploring gender identity and sexual orientation is an ongoing journey and that they do not need to rush into any opinions or decisions.

Educate Yourself and Remain Open-Minded

Parents should also educate themselves on the subject of gender and sexual orientation. Be open-minded and willing to learn because children who identify as LGBTQ may face issues that are unique to their experience.

There are numerous excellent resources available online and offline to help you better understand LGBTQ identities and experiences. Here are a few examples:

Books

Family Pride by Michael Shelton: This book is about what LGBTQ families should know about navigating home, school, and neighbourhood safety. It is a great book emphasizing community safety for queer families and allies.

Love Comes First by Bradford Kolb, MD, FACOG & Melinda Maerker: This book is about LGBTQ families’ inspiring stories. This also includes expert advice on raising LGBTQ children, ranging from adoption to surrogacy, a tour of biology, and the latest reproductive medicine technologies from an LGBTQ perspective.

This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids by Dannielle Owens-Reid and Kristin Russo: Written in a simple Q&A format. The authors have extensive experience answering parents’ numerous questions and providing insight and guidance on emotional and practical issues.

YouTube

Queer Kid Stuff: This channel provides LGBTQ and social justice media to children and families. They produce videos, podcasts, newsletters, and various other media.

Shame Proof Parenting: Mercedes Samudio is a best-selling author, speaker, and parent coach. In this episode, she speaks with John Sovec about how to support a child who identifies as LGBTQ and helps teens and parents navigate the process of coming out.

Powered by Rainbows: Every week, this channel offers LGBTQ videos that include highly researched classes, documentaries, interviews with experts and activists, and so many more.

Communities / Organizations (Singapore based)

The T Project: This is Singapore’s first and only social service that caters to the needs of the transgender community. The T Project runs a transgender women’s shelter, a community center, counseling services, and trans reading materials.

Sayoni: The organization was founded in 2006 by six women from diverse backgrounds to empower queer women, including lesbian, bisexual, and transgender women. The volunteer-led organization based in Singapore believes that everyone can help improve the lives of the LGBTQ+ community.

The Purple Alliance: This is a safe space that promotes the well-being of LGBTQA people. It gives them the ability to share their stories and provides them with the resources they require.

Parents should be aware of any LGBTQ-related activities that children may be interested in attending (such as LGBTQ pride festivals or LGBTQ-focused events at schools) and support participation if they feel comfortable doing so. You could also Introduce kids to movies and other forms of media that feature LGBTQ characters or themes. Doing so will give children exposure to the issues and stories surrounding the topic.

Respect Your LGBTQ Child’s Privacy

Remember that the gender identity and sexual orientation of LGBTQ children are private matters. It is critical to remind your child to respect others’ privacies as well as protect your LGBTQ child’s privacy and not reveal any personal information about them without their consent. This includes not discussing LGBTQ issues with other family members or friends without the child’s permission. Parents should be aware that their children may be reluctant to discuss their gender identity or sexual orientation in public.

Family Rejection

The rejection of LGBTQ children by their own families is a tragedy that has been going on for far too long. This heartbreaking situation can leave deep emotional scars and lead to devastating consequences, such as drug addiction, depression, and self-harming behavior, including suicide attempts.

While this problem is often attributed to the children themselves, it is rooted in society’s attitude towards LGBTQ children and how parents internalize those attitudes. In many cases, the shame caused by parental disapproval can be so great that parents will reject their children instead of embracing them.

When engaging children in dialogue, be sure to let your children know that you support them unconditionally and that you are always there for them if they ever need anything.

Powerful Talk: Parenting and Sex Education

Nadya Sharfina · March 7, 2023 · Leave a Comment

"Parents can prepare for these conversations by broaching age-appropriate topics and practicing effective communication methods with their kids.”

Discussing sex education with kids can often be difficult or awkward. It is important to discuss it however, as it teaches kids about their bodies, about making safe and healthy decisions, and fosters open, honest dialogue between parent and child. Read on for some suggestions on talking openly about this sensitive subject with your kids.

Introduce the Topic of Sex to Your Kids

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Introducing the topic of sex to your kids is an important parenting skill to have. Experts recommend that parents begin talking to their children about sex before any formal sex education in school. As children enter adolescence, the conversation should expand to include topics such as consent, healthy relationships, contraception, and the emotional aspects of sexual intimacy.

As kids grow, their comprehension of sex and sexuality changes, so it is essential to tailor the conversation accordingly. For example, when discussing sex with preschool-aged kids, parents should focus on introducing basic concepts like proper names for body parts and relationships between family members.

With school-aged or adolescent kids, parents can cover more complex topics such as sexual health, gender identity issues, and concerns about sexual safety.

Parents can help build trust and respect between themselves and their kids through these conversations while ensuring that their kids have a comprehensive understanding of sexual health as they enter teen or adulthood.

Explaining Puberty

Puberty is often a confusing period in a child’s life. Parents should discuss these topics in a safe and non-judgmental environment with their kids so that they can gain a better understanding of their changing bodies and feelings. Parents should discuss their child’s physical changes, such as growing taller or developing acne.

Hormones change the way a kid’s body looks on the outside, but they also cause changes on the inside. During puberty, kids may feel confused or experience strong emotions that they have never experienced before. They may be overly sensitive or easily upset. Parents should address emotional changes or the development of deeper relationships with friends as well as crushes.

Boys begin puberty between the ages of 9 and 14 and typically reach puberty two years later than girls. If your son begins to show signs of puberty before age 9 or no signs of puberty have appeared by age 15, talk to a doctor about it. Signs of puberty that you can tell your boys to look out for include:

Coarse, curly hair sprouting above the penis and on the scrotum
Testicles will get bigger
Erections may start to happen
Ejaculation: the release of sperm containing semen – will occur
Ejaculation during sleep may happen, and is called a ‘wet dream’
Hair will continue to grow under arms and on the face
The voice will crack and grow deeper

Girls typically start puberty 2 years earlier than boys, between the ages of 8 and 13. Periods (menstruation) typically begin around the age of 12. Signs of puberty that you can tell your girls to look out for include:

Breast development
Coarse, curly hair appearing on the labia
Hair growing in the underarms
Hips will start to widen
Abdominal cramps just before their first period
Spotting of blood on the underwear just before their first period

Both boys and girls will undergo emotional changes in varied ways. Some changes to look out for include:

When kids start worrying about what people think of their appearance
They may start to concentrate more on the way they look and dress
Becoming more concerned about their privacy
They may become moodier
Kids might want to focus on their friends rather than their families, showing less affection towards parents

Books, Podcasts, Videos, and Other Resources

Parents can provide their kids with resources to help them navigate the complex issues surrounding sex education. By doing so, parents offer their kids reliable and accurate information about sex and sexual health. These can include websites, books, pamphlets, podcasts, and even online forums where kids can ask questions in a safe, nonjudgmental environment.

Here are some books, podcasts, and videos on teaching kids about sex, puberty, and relationships:

Books

Ready, Set, Grow! by Lynda Madaras: This book contains everything you need to know about girls’ bodies and puberty. Detailed, but written in a friendly tone that addresses typical teenage angst. Suitable for preparing younger girls for puberty or for girls who have already begun puberty.

Let’s Talk about Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect by Jayneen Sanders: A fantastic resource for discussing consent in a thoughtful and non-threatening manner, ensuring that kids understand their body safety rights while also respecting the rights of other kids.

How to Talk to Your Child About Sex by Linda and Richard Eyre: The authors emphasize that it is never too early or too late to begin discussing sex and values with your kids, and they have tried-and-true methods for making it easier.

Podcasts

ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show: Talking with your spouse or partner, strategizing, and committing to answering truthfully to your children about sex are some of the action plans Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo recommend to parents in this podcast.

Life Kit: What are sex, genitals, consent, and self-touching? This episode of the podcast assists parents in overcoming their ambiguity and discomfort about sex education so that they can raise healthy and responsible kids.

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer: This Podcast covers why discussing sex with kids can be so difficult. This includes how to be a good mentor in early childhood to adulthood and age-appropriate sexuality conversations to have with your kids.

Videos

Vanessa and Xander Marin: Did you know that children who talk about sex with their parents make better decisions about their sexual lives? This video provides you with more information. Vanessa is a sex therapist, and together with her husband helps parents who are struggling to talk to their children about sex and offers advice.

Nicholeen Peck – Teaching Self Government: Nicholeen Peck is regarded as one of the most effective parenting experts in the world. Discussions centre around fixing behavioral issues in children, increasing family unity, or simply strengthening family relationships. In this episode, she discusses sex education and other age-appropriate topics.

Watchwellcast: This video explains the stages of puberty as well as what happens in children’s bodies and minds during puberty. Watchwellcast also decodes puberty in girls and boys in separate videos with great animation.

Providing resources will help kids gain the knowledge they need to make informed decisions. Parents must provide factual information to their kids rather than making up answers or using slang terms.

Kids should also be taught that it is acceptable to not have all of the answers. They can be encouraged to seek trustworthy information or guidance from healthcare providers, educators, or other responsible adults when in doubt.

Emphasise Consent, Respect, and Boundaries

When discussing sex with their kids, parents should emphasise the importance of consent and respect. Explain that:

all sexual activity must be consensual and that anyone can say “no” at any time without repercussions.
respect means honouring people’s boundaries

Sexual abuse is an often-overlooked topic in parenting and sex education. Parents need to discuss this subject with their kids because sexual abuse can have long-term psychological and physical effects on victims. Explain to kids that any type of unwanted or nonconsensual contact with private body parts, including touching, fondling, kissing, or intercourse, is considered sexual abuse.

Rape, incest, child molestation, and other forms of relationship coercion are serious topics that ought to be discussed and understood as well. Parents should also discuss how anyone, regardless of gender identity or age, can be a victim; and that no one has the right to force someone into unwanted sexual contact.

Remind your kids that if they ever feel uncomfortable in a situation or suspect that they have been sexually abused, they can always seek help. Encourage your kids to come forward if anything inappropriate occurs. Make sure your kids know who they can turn to besides you if they feel unsafe or scared, such as teachers, nurses, doctors at school, or healthcare professionals outside of school.

Discuss Abstinence-Only Approach vs Other Options

When discussing sex education with kids, parents may choose the abstinence-only approach, but it is ineffective in providing comprehensive sex education. It can even lead to negative outcomes such as higher rates of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections amongst teens. This method only offers abstinence as a means of protection against such risks, which is insufficient.

To provide their kids with a more informed perspective on sex, parents can opt for a more comprehensive approach that includes topics such as STD (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) awareness, contraception, and consent. This method of sex education is more effective in lowering STI (Sexually Transmitted Infections) rates and unwanted pregnancies.

Sex education is critical for kids of all ages. It teaches kids about their bodies and how they work, as well as about self-esteem and relationships. When parents communicate their opinions and advice in a well-informed manner and in a loving, accepting environment, kids can grow up safe and healthy.