Adulting

As a teenager, it was often frustrating to listen to ‘advice’, which came from a whole range of sources. It wasn’t always older people spouting it either, sometimes it came from my peers. There was a time when I felt that I had already figured most of life out. I read books, observed people, knew who I was and felt rooted in my identity. Why did everyone feel the need to dole out mostly unsolicited advice?

As I grew older I realised that the problem with the advice wasn’t the advice itself, but the delivery. There was an assumption that all teenagers are the same, at the same level of maturity and intellectual capability even, and that well-meant counsel of sorts could help guide us in the right direction. I would eventually realise that most of these pearls of wisdom would eventually prove useful, if not directly to me, at least to someone close to me whom I could help out:

Start Saving as Soon as You Can

Got an allowance? Open a savings account if you don’t have one already or ask for access to the one your parents set up for you, and start depositing your savings in there. It’s never too early to start saving. If your parents allow you to, get two accounts, one for saving and one for spending, so that you can always keep track of where your money is going. Saving money is not an automatic skill that you obtain once you reach adulthood, it is something that you can start practicing even in adolescence.

Read Widely

In order to do well for your ‘O’ or ‘A’ levels? Well that’s just part of it. When you start reading widely from a young age, you expose your mind to a variety of topics and ideas which will not only turn you into a great conversationalist, but also into an intelligent, thinking, curious being who will connect with anyone, anywhere, making it easier for you to get a scholarship, ace an interview or even date the person of your dreams! Bill Gates, even with all his success, still reads 50 books a year to continue to improve himself and his various intiatives.

Stay Active

Get into a rhythm doing your favourite sport or engaging in a fun calorie burning activity, then keep at it. Meeting your friends for badminton every month? Don’t give it up once you guys go to University. Going for a run during P.E. once a week? Keep that going once you graduate from school. It is easy to get swept up in the excitement and busyness that adulthood comes with in your 20s, and to neglect this most fundamental task that will keep you flexible and healthy well into your 30s and 40s. You will thank yourself when you turn 50.

Pursue Your Passion

Don’t give up serenading people with your guitar, painting still life or playing basketball. You might never win an award or recognition for your talent, but that isn’t the point of your passion at all. Do it for your own enjoyment, spiritual growth and happiness. A lot of the time adulthood becomes about chasing the dollar or upgrading from house to house, car to car, promotion to promotion. Adults forget about the CCA or Saturday afternoon class that brought them so much joy and leave it behind locked up in their childhood. Don’t give up on your passion!

Don’t Smoke. Just Don’t

Well personally I never did, but the number of people around me who tried ‘just one puff’ or who continue to be ‘social smokers’ still astounds me. Sometime I think the only reason they might have picked it up is out of mere curiosity, about the one thing that was consistently denied to them in adolescence. Well it’s bad for you, it’s bad for your lungs, and it’s bad for your wallet. All that money you started saving as a kid will fly out the window with the smoke, and really, it’s Just. Not. Worth. It. Don’t do it. Don’t smoke.

These are just a few pieces of advice that I would have given to my younger self. At the end of the day, it’s also important to remember that you will make mistakes and have regrets, no matter what you’ve done to prevent them or how good the advice you’ve taken has been, so hang in there. More importantly, focus on being happy.